Separate Or Joint Family System?

[Hoorain]

Assalam o ALaikum
jaise k waqt k saath baqi cheezain aur habits change ho rhe hain ussi tara family system b joint se separate ki taraf move kar rhe hain!
vote karain Aapko kia lagta hay which one is better joint or separate??,,
aap kisse prefer karte hain..
Also apne vote ki reason b btayain!
Joint Family

Independent Family

@Sabah @masoom_se_chahat @Atif-adi @Don @RedRose64 @saviou @Dawn @Mahen

 

[Hoorain]

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[*Sonu*]

walikum salam​

voted ​

 

[Hoorain]

reasonn bhi btayainnnn sonu

 

[*Sonu*]

reason hmm well enjoy zyda krskty hai app​

e.g jab hum lhr jaty hai tu wahan per nano ka gher mai joint family system hai so wahan her event per bht enjoy krty hai aur hum sab cznx bht fun krty hai jasy eid per aur sply match dekhty hovy abhi yahan bhi tab match ko zyda enjoy krty hai jab baqi cznx hamary gher per hoon tu ​

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[SUBHAANA]

Joint Family <3

Jab Kabhi Ap beemar Ho to koi or b Cooking Kar sakta hai

Or Jab Kabhi Bore ho rahe ho To kisi Ko b Pakrh kar tang kar sakte hai ap lol

 

[Tariq Saeed]

Walaikumsalam wrwb....
dono apni apni jaga hyn...

Joint Family...!
joint family m aik problem hay jo yeh k.... agr joint family ki contribution b joint ho to phir to kia hi baat hay.. but agr kisi aik banday k oper sb kuch daal dia jai or jb k uski apnay b v bachay hoon to i think k guzara bahot mushkil hay... joint family m sb ko hi hisa lena chahiye na k sirf aik ko hi bakra banaya jai..

Separate Family..!
separate family k be faiday hyn or nuksaan ziada hayn.. iski detail k liye bahot time chahiye... so sorry
barhaal .. m joint family k liye vote kronga

 

[Toobi]

voted...

 

[saviou]

Wa Alaykum Assalam Wrwb

bohot hi aham topic hai agar ham sirf zaahiri cheezon ko dekh kar polling na karen to

asal me aap ki muraad joint family se kya hai?

agar joint family se muraad parents, wife/wifes childrens aur sath me brothers and their wife ye sab hain to phir ye islam ke lihaaz se jayez nahi

agar joint family se muraad walidain biwi/biwian aur bache hain to phir ye sahi hai

wallahu alam

 

[Iceage-TM]

wa alaikum ussalam...

 

[Sabah]

Wa Alaykum Assalam Wrwb

bohot hi aham topic hai agar ham sirf zaahiri cheezon ko dekh kar polling na karen to

asal me aap ki muraad joint family se kya hai?

agar joint family se muraad parents, wife/wifes childrens aur sath me brothers and their wife ye sab hain to phir ye islam ke lihaaz se jayez nahi

agar joint family se muraad walidain biwi/biwian aur bache hain to phir ye sahi hai

wallahu alam

A good question,
I think generally joint family se murad parents, wife/wifes childrens aur sath me brothers and their wife ye sab hain...


Pahly sochte joint family acha hain, hum saath saath hain, khush hain... but yeh serf ek assumption hain real life mei joint family mei jitna suffer kerna perta hain utna independent family mei nai hota...
because I was born and raised in a joint family I can easily say, daily you're gonna suffer different opinions, different likes and dislikes, too many complains, quarrels etc... bachelor life mei joint family mei aapke faislay serf aapke father nai, uncles and baki cousins bhi ker lete hain, ladki hoker school jane k lie sabke alug alug request kerne padegi kessi ek permission meli tu dusre ko request ager na ho so nai, phir shadi k baad mother in-law and father in-law k saath saath aap bade brother in-law ki her hukam mano jaisa vohi kahe vaisa voh kero jub k islam mei brother in-law bhi na muhharam hain, lekin humare yaha bade dewar ka buhut he ihteraam and respect k saath her sahi aur ghalat manni hain, thora sa bhi unke baato se alug kuch kiya tu buss taunts he sunne ko melenge, ek cheez k lie aapko puray khandan ka permission lena parega, husband k saath aap kuch extra time spend nai kersakte family ki maujudgi mei unse baat nai kersakte which is not fair at all.... maybe hum log 22th century mei rah rahe ho but still humare gher k qanoon 20th century k log jaise hote hain in a joint family...

independent family
parents and kids OR parents, husband and wife, kids ho : it's better than a joint family, bache ka perwarish ek peaceful manners in a peaceful envoirenment mei aap kersakte ho, husband k saath ache se time spend kersakte ho, jho joint family mei mushkil hain aur bhi kafi reasons hain but i think above mentioned reasons are enough...

 

[Ghazal_Ka_Chiragh]

Assalam o ALaikum
jaise k waqt k saath baqi cheezain aur habits change ho rhe hain ussi tara family system b joint se separate ki taraf move kar rhe hain!
vote karain Aapko kia lagta hay which one is better joint or separate??,,
aap kisse prefer karte hain..
Also apne vote ki reason b btayain!
Joint Family

Independent Family

@Sabah @masoom_se_chahat @Atif-adi @Don @RedRose64 @saviou @Dawn @Mahen

Wa'alaikumussalaam nice poll @hoorain sister mein to aapko is thrd me aane ke qabil hi nhi laga
btw have voted for joint family

 

[ShyPrincess]

Voted 4 independent family ..

@Sabah ne kafi achay se bayan kiya hai ..
aur ik aur problem.. jisne bhi paki drama "Qaid-e-tanhai" dekha hai tou... jub koi bara/chota bhai ya beta bahar hota hai tou joint family me yeh hota hai k bhabhi/bahu bhi bahar na jayen werna humein kon poochey ga : |

 

[K1ran]

off course joint family..... khtay hain sath mil k khany sy barkat hoti ha, joint family main rehna thora mushkil hota ha lakin dukh sukh main jab sab aik dosary ka sath daty hain tu choti choti ranjishan kahtam ho jati hn.... khas tor sy buzargon ka ghar main rehna app ko hrr trha k guide line milti ha, un ka pori zindagi ka experience hamary ly roshni ki trha hota ha, jo app ko girnay nehn dataa...es life ka bht maza ha...dukh sukh sab sajnha hota ha...i love it

 

[Hoorain]

Wa'alaikumussalaam nice poll @hoorain sister mein to aapko is thrd me aane ke qabil hi nhi laga
btw have voted for joint family

aise nae bola karain

 

[saviou]

off course joint family..... khtay hain sath mil k khany sy barkat hoti ha, joint family main rehna thora mushkil hota ha lakin dukh sukh main jab sab aik dosary ka sath daty hain tu choti choti ranjishan kahtam ho jati hn.... khas tor sy buzargon ka ghar main rehna app ko hrr trha k guide line milti ha, un ka pori zindagi ka experience hamary ly roshni ki trha hota ha, jo app ko girnay nehn dataa...es life ka bht maza ha...dukh sukh sab sajnha hota ha...i love it

hamare hisaab se to ye joint family nahi huyi jahan maa baap biwi bache hon wo ek alag family hi hoti joint family me dusre bhaion ki families bhi aajati hain ya phir chacha taya ye sab ki families bhi

 

[HuriYa]

Walikumu salaam

well It Depends..! Joint Family system bOhat acha hOta hay ager sab Log Pyar aur Aman se rahan..! Rishton ka ahtraam hOo, aak doseray ke rights ka kheyal rakha Jaye aur dukh sukh banta Jaye..! mager Jahan Larae Jhagra hOo aur Family members hi aak dOseray k liye problems Create kerna shurO ho jain wahan yah system Fail hO Jata hay..! so aise surat main Separate rehna hi behter hay.

 

[AshirFrhan]

Walikumu salaam

well It Depends..! Joint Family system bOhat acha hOta hay ager sab Log Pyar aur Aman se rahan..! Rishton ka ahtraam hOo, aak doseray ke rights ka kheyal rakha Jaye aur dukh sukh banta Jaye..! mager Jahan Larae Jhagra hOo aur Family members hi aak dOseray k liye problems Create kerna shurO ho jain wahan yah system Fail hO Jata hay..! so aise surat main Separate rehna hi behter hay.

Voted For Joint Family with the same reasons as Hooria Api[DOUBLEPOST=1358068725][/DOUBLEPOST]

A good question,
I think generally joint family se murad parents, wife/wifes childrens aur sath me brothers and their wife ye sab hain...


Pahly sochte joint family acha hain, hum saath saath hain, khush hain... but yeh serf ek assumption hain real life mei joint family mei jitna suffer kerna perta hain utna independent family mei nai hota...
because I was born and raised in a joint family I can easily say, daily you're gonna suffer different opinions, different likes and dislikes, too many complains, quarrels etc... bachelor life mei joint family mei aapke faislay serf aapke father nai, uncles and baki cousins bhi ker lete hain, ladki hoker school jane k lie sabke alug alug request kerne padegi kessi ek permission meli tu dusre ko request ager na ho so nai, phir shadi k baad mother in-law and father in-law k saath saath aap bade brother in-law ki her hukam mano jaisa vohi kahe vaisa voh kero jub k islam mei brother in-law bhi na muhharam hain, lekin humare yaha bade dewar ka buhut he ihteraam and respect k saath her sahi aur ghalat manni hain, thora sa bhi unke baato se alug kuch kiya tu buss taunts he sunne ko melenge, ek cheez k lie aapko puray khandan ka permission lena parega, husband k saath aap kuch extra time spend nai kersakte family ki maujudgi mei unse baat nai kersakte which is not fair at all.... maybe hum log 22th century mei rah rahe ho but still humare gher k qanoon 20th century k log jaise hote hain in a joint family...

independent family
parents and kids OR parents, husband and wife, kids ho : it's better than a joint family, bache ka perwarish ek peaceful manners in a peaceful envoirenment mei aap kersakte ho, husband k saath ache se time spend kersakte ho, jho joint family mei mushkil hain aur bhi kafi reasons hain but i think above mentioned reasons are enough...

i agreed sabah api with all you said
but what you will you choose when you become mother in law??

 

[Sabah]

Voted For Joint Family with the same reasons as Hooria Api[DOUBLEPOST=1358068725][/DOUBLEPOST]
i agreed sabah api with all you said
but what you will you choose when you become mother in law??

Let me be a wife first, then a mother and then a mother in-law
what made you ask this because a role of mother in-law is no where i mentioned, and neither I said anything wrong about it?

 

[AshirFrhan]

I must say You will get each and every thing that you ever wish for,
being what you want
INSHAALLAH
bcoz then you will see how tough is that decision to elimate your son with his own family from your house. whatever the reasons are.[DOUBLEPOST=1358071265][/DOUBLEPOST]Joint Family is a blessing
may be thier are problems exists as well.
It looks like our country PAKISTAN where one province thinks its gonna be unfair with it in this federation.
so what should be the right decision ? separation or trying to resolve the issues.?